Sometimes we can linger in the past events of our lives and
make them the reason for our choices in the now and future, but we have to step
out of the pattern at some point and find our way as adults.
We have to recognise why we do this too. Is it our
personality that looks for something to blame and then finds it’s an easy way
out every time. The trouble is, those around us get tired of the excuse.
Is it an excuse or is it truly effecting our way of being,
regardless of our personality.
Why do some look at their past experiences and then despite
them, move on to create better for themselves, vowing to never repeat it and
others go round again and again and again and wonder why life keeps giving them
the same result.
Life sends in different people and experiences, opportunities
for change, yet the same result occurs and it reaffirms the belief. Why? - because
the reaction each time is the same.
We tried it once, it didn't work – let’s do it the same way
again – we know then what the result will be and I have a strategy for that
route because I have done it so many times.
Well how about the opposite, do it different, you’ll need a
different strategy as the result will be different – in fact you might not need
a strategy at all as the result will be one of success and we can all cope with
that or can we?
Life will always go bad, love will turn to hate, I can never
be what I want to be, it is too late to make a change…all self-fulfilling
prophecies.
Well life is a mixture of events, but mostly they are good.
We live a privileged existence here and the things that our minds race ahead
and fear, hardly ever happen in reality.
So if we know that we are very often likely to attract what
we think of, why put your thoughts to problems….put them to success and give
yourself a better chance of a happier outcome.
Those that do the positive thinking, at least haven’t
drained their energy with negativity and if something’s go wrong, so what? It
happens and we try again. We look at what it was and learn from it, we don’t
throw in the towel at the first hurdle and run, we try it again but having
learnt what not to do this time.
Love will turn to hate? Well yes if that is where you put
your thoughts and can’t be bothered to put the time and nurturing into it, that
is what happens.
Love is a garden and when 2 people come together and
recognise each other’s goodness, nature tosses them a packet of seeds.
Now these two new gardeners can be lazy and just cast the
seeds about and do nothing – the seeds so lovingly given by nature will die –
so yes, love has the potential of dying.
But what if the gardeners are not lazy and they prep the
ground for the seeds and then cast them carefully so that they have a better
chance of growing – that’s a better start!
Then they water them and feed them and nurture them. Eventually the
garden will produce a beautiful array of flowers and will be a delightful
sanctuary for the 2 gardeners to reside in. It took some effort, but the
rewards are more than worth it, when you see a well-cared for garden. It didn't
happen by accident!
Now all gardens need a little work and as time goes on, the
rewards get better and better. The more mature the garden, the more comfortable
and abundant it becomes.
Like anything in life – it needs a little effort! If one
plant wilts or dies, you don’t abandon the whole project, you look to see if
where you need to make a change and the two gardeners look to see why and
change the conditions and the plants flourish again.
Each gardener knows that they need each other too, if one is
sick the other needs to tend to the tree and nurture it and keep it well and it
needs to be reciprocated when the other falls sick.
A garden is a big job!
The less effort you put in, the less you reap – ask anyone
that grows flowers of veg!
So what about never being able to be what you want to be…its
too late….oh my! So you know your end date do you? Is too late the day just
before you leave this earth or is too late 3 years before you leave this
earth….when is too late to start being what you want to be?
The process of becoming what you want to be is as important
as the end result if not more so – that is the exciting bit – nothing worth
doing is worth doing badly. The longer we do nothing to make a change, then
again we fulfil that self-fulfilling prophecy.
If we don’t like what we have, do something different –
don’t do nothing – do something. Who knows what it may lead to. Work can take
us in many directions. For some it is the main focus of life for others it is a
means to an end. For most of us, it is a balance between the two – which at
least makes more things possible.
The same applies though, the more you put into it, the
better it gets and the greater the rewards and the more the self-esteem grows
and we attract better things. Like is always attracted to like!
Bad stuff happens in life, of course it does. It happens for
us all. We can be its victim or we can be its demise and not let the bad stuff
win.
If we have a fit and able body – we win! We have the capability to work and earn our
money
If we have the power of intelligence – we win! We can use
that to our good and for the good of others.
We all have it, we have to be prepared to utilise it and nurture it in a
way that suits us best to live the life we want – but we all have it.
We all by definition have the power to become the person we
should be – if we are just prepared to put the effort in
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